What is it that bridges the gap between ego and love?
What is it that links ego to THE SELF?
A voice within me’ kindled my ‘spirit of enquiry’ as I sipped my morning cup of tea and reflected on the first thought which rushed to my mind – may be, it was my last thought before I slept. This may be because one of my closest of friends had come to me the previous night to ‘let go’ of what bothered him, day in and day out – a problem in one of his closest relationships. I recollected that he had mentioned about ‘Unconditional Love’ that he had for her , which she could not give back.
I asked him – if he had unconditional love as he claimed he had for her, how could he expect her to give it back? He started getting into polemics in self-defence. I ended the discussion then and there, and suggested to him to reflect on what transpired between us , later, in his moment of solitude and introspection.
Any relationship, which is conditional, cannot be love. It may be attachment to something or someone and may be one-sided or reciprocal. In case it is the latter, it can be mutual attachment of the matter-body level of the senses, the feelings and the emotions at the grossest level. I think we can even call it ‘ a projection of the ego-consciousness’ vis-a-vis the relationship, where, the two individuals may be in the same level of consciousness. This, I think, is the reason both have expectations and disappointments leading to misunderstandings, and, at its worst, can lead to real fights that may lead to a ‘disconnect’ – a total lack of communication between the two, in which case, both just ‘exist, but not ‘live’ together. This may last for a whole lifetime and the relationship may break for once and all. So unfortunate – but better than that of ‘mere existence’. And, in case of the former – I mean – one-sided attachment – I repeat attachment – one may be attached to the other person , but, the other may either be in a state of ‘slumber’ as far as the sensitivity to the relationship is concerned – in an artificial shell created in defence – of what – a false ego? Or, ego in the wrong place and in the wrong situation? I don’t know, but I wonder! Or, the other may have transcended the experience and expression of ego in the matter-body consciousness, and hence, in the relationships.
Ego, when it transcends the body-consciousness, merges with the SELF, to be self-effulgent, and, to be a blessing for the individual in his or her life and relationships. Life becomes a CELEBRATION in LOVE, Bliss and GRATITUDE , moment-to-moment, even given, clouds may appear in the horizon of the SELF, but only temporarily, to disappear with the rays of the ’ SUN of GRACE’ splitting out of the clouds to evaporate the clouds into thin air.