EGO….LOVE-….?…THE SELF

What is it that bridges the gap between ego and love?

What is it that links ego to THE SELF?

A voice within me’ kindled my ‘spirit of enquiry’ as I sipped my morning cup of tea and reflected on the first thought which rushed to my mind – may be, it was my last thought before I slept. This may be because one of my closest of friends had come to me the previous night to ‘let go’ of what bothered him, day in and day out – a problem in one of his closest relationships. I recollected that he had mentioned about ‘Unconditional Love’ that he had for her , which she could not give back.

I asked him – if he had unconditional love as he claimed he had for her, how could he expect her to give it back? He started getting into polemics in self-defence. I ended the discussion then and there, and suggested to him to reflect on what transpired between us , later, in his moment of solitude and introspection.

Any relationship, which is conditional, cannot be love. It may be attachment to something or someone and may be one-sided or reciprocal. In case it is the latter, it can be mutual attachment of the matter-body level of the senses, the feelings and the emotions at the grossest level. I think we can even call it ‘ a projection of the ego-consciousness’ vis-a-vis the relationship, where, the two individuals may be in the same level of consciousness. This, I think, is the reason both have expectations and disappointments leading to misunderstandings, and, at its worst, can lead to real fights that may lead to a ‘disconnect’ – a total lack of communication between the two, in which case, both just ‘exist, but not ‘live’ together. This may last for a whole lifetime and the relationship may break for once and all. So unfortunate – but better than that of ‘mere existence’. And, in case of the former – I mean – one-sided attachment – I repeat attachment – one may be attached to the other person , but, the other may either be in a state of ‘slumber’ as far as the sensitivity to the relationship is concerned – in an artificial shell created in defence – of what – a false ego? Or, ego in the wrong place and in the wrong situation? I don’t know, but I wonder! Or, the other may have transcended the experience and expression of ego in the matter-body consciousness, and hence, in the relationships.

Ego, when it transcends the body-consciousness, merges with the SELF, to be self-effulgent, and, to be a blessing for the individual in his or her life and relationships. Life becomes a CELEBRATION in LOVE, Bliss and GRATITUDE , moment-to-moment, even given, clouds may appear in the horizon of the SELF, but only temporarily, to disappear with the rays of the ’ SUN of GRACE’ splitting out of the clouds to evaporate the clouds into thin air.

Advertisements

A HOLIDAY A MEMORY TO CHERISH

Globe-trotters and holidayers want to take back home – memories to cherish – of a fun-filled and stress-free holiday .
It’s only a few years now since I started travelling and going for a holiday abroad.
It is a combination of many factors that make a holiday a memorable one to cherish in our hearts.
I cherish memories of my holidays in Australia .
It’s a wonderful place of natural beauty – free of pollution of any sort

They are wonderful people, open-minded and bias-free and all-inclusive in all ways ,- free of class, creed, color, and other definitions as may be. They are always ready to help any tourist, or, in fact, anyone in need of it.

The law and order system and its administration are proactive and hence efficacious and supportive . Hence I feel very safe, even when I travel alone, any time of the day or night.

They have remarkable infrastructure such as good roads and commendable traffic control with latest technological support (for roads, in cars and everywhere), to avoid disorder or breach of law) as conducive to making daily life stress-free. There is hardly any fear of accidents due to over speeding, as people are very aware and responsible and responsive. And , in case of exceptions, if any, immediate action is taken so there is hardly any scope for insensitivity and callousness vis-a-vis different speed-limits for different zones, such as school-zone, pedestrian crossing , crowded market during festivals, etc.

They lead ‘quality lives of rich and lasting values such as dignity of labour and self-help .When I go for a walk,I see even elderly couples mowing the lawn, gardening, wheeling garbage bins in and out of the house to keep them out,on the scheduled day and at the scheduled time, for collection and disposal. At a very early age, children become independent and realize the value of self-dependence.

Personal hygiene and cleanliness are examples to emulate, especially as it’s not only the governing body or the authorities concerned, who take responsibility for a suburb or a city to be kept clean – everyone contributes. We don’t find garbage littered on the roads and in the public places such as a children’s park or in and around a restaurant or a fast food joint ‘on wheels’. Even the children are trained at a very early age to be responsible for waste disposal so as not to be a nuisance to the public.

In all the apartments in the city and the suburbs, pets are allowed. Every place is dog-friendly . And, those who have pets are equally responsible and empathetic to even those who may not like pets around. They take the responsibility of collecting the ‘poop’of their pets when they take them out for a run and disposing it as per the rules.

The awareness of all, including kids,about the ways to save the environment from pollution of any sort, is, indeed, commendable. One cannot find even a piece of paper or a crumb of bread lying around anywhere – not even around the garbage bins. Pedestrians and cyclists alike take care not to throw litter on their way and keep to their side and place of walking/cycling and parking, respectively. Trees are not allowed to be cut for building houses as legal approval needs to be taken before a building site is bought.

I am yet to hear a loudly-honking driver here for law doesn’t permit it.

The Traffic Control and the Road and Infrastructure officials as well as the Police are on their scheduled rounds round-the-clock. .

The buses, trams and the Metro Train are all capably managed, taking care of punctuality, cleanliness and contingency alternate services.

The medical services are very good. The patient’s immune system is given time to cure small ailments, which may not need immediate administration of antibiotics. This is possible as antibiotics are not available without a certified doctor’s prescription. (Ironically, it is another thing that if one is a tourist from a country where antibiotics can be bought at the counter, and where, a patient can meet a specialist directly, not going through the GP, as is mandatory here, his or her system may take time to activate the immune system to cure the minor ailments.)

The Day Care Centers here are so dependable and personal care is customised to the child’s needs, with support from the parents.

One of their greatest achievements that I have heard of is punctuality. Offices work from 10a. m. to 5 p.m . They don’t make it even a few minutes late to open and close offices, restaurants, etc.

I think all these are possible with the combined efforts of all citizens and the governing bodies including the city police, the traffic police etc. along with the strict administration of law and order.

The above may be the experiences for many of you ,who are born and brought up and live in such a place. But, to me, these are eye-openers as I have not travelled around much .

Even given that we can’t compare a developing country to a developed country, we cannot overrule the fact that most or all of these above are possible in a developing country as well.

It has been an enriching experience for me in Australia. I hope to travel widely and explore and take back great memories and lessons to learn for my people.

IN HONOR OF. DR.(Late) A. P. J. ABDUL KALAM)

Born on 15 October, 1931 he was :

PROFUNDITY CLOAKED IN SIMPLICITY
(as it, mostly, is)

(THE Former resident of India)
He was a ‘living legend’- A multifaceted personality, who set an example to all, by living as:
The common man
The humanitarian
The thinker/writer/poet/the spiritual seeker-CUM-The scientist as” The Missile Man”((no dichotomy here)

The Politician
(one of the most successful -The lesson I have learnt from him: One needs to think and live like the common man first, and, needs to be a dreamer and thinker, but, with a scientific temper, to do justice to one’s role in a community /nation , and, especially, to be a successful politician.

One of his most famous quotes :
“If a country is to be corruption-free,and become a nation of most beautiful minds, I strongly feel there are 3 key societal members, who can make a difference. They are the father, the mother, and, the teacher. “

ENVIRONMENTALISM

A building under construction –

(One of the most common scenarios)

BUT

WITH ALL THE DIFFERENCE

1. Efficacy of waste management on an a daily basis – no debris or garbage thrown around.

2. No tree uprooted to build.. so no birds made homeless by insensitivity and callousness.

3. No work of this kind done at untimely hours.

4.No pollution of any kind.

HENCE NO DISRUPTION IN THE ENVIRONMENT

Here, everyone is an environmentalist – at the grassroot level – the foundation-stone for growth!

KUDOS to MELBURNIANS!

A CLEAN ENVIRONMENT OUR LEGACY TO POSTERITY

It is indeed commendable, I. e. the clean environment in Melbourne, even given – the efficacy of a clean environment directly corresponds to the geographical dimensions and the population of a country or continent . The people are very aware and all work together to support any endeavour to save the environment from pollution . The fact that India is considered a Third World country and so also a developing country gives scope and hope for a healthy environment as per global standards. It may take some time, but with the government and the NGOS already working along with the Environmentalists, and, presumably, the ‘common man’ like you and me, that day is not far when we will be at par with global benchmarks of a clean environment.

THE GOLDEN SUNSET

As I watched the setting Sun

I mused awhile

Reflecting on its glory

That shone’ in the still waters of the ebbing tide!

It sparked ‘the observer’ in the ‘Sun-baked’ mind

And a glow that illumined ‘the ‘dark recesses’ of ‘The Self’

To tell me that I am ‘ageless’

Though have I turned three scores and two and aged – but in body alone!

The soul embodies itself in a body that is born in this world

Then the body grows old and dies

Then it is buried or burnt to ashes

To disintegrate and merge into the five elements!

Birth corresponds to the rising Sun and the morning tide

As time moves, so tide moves

And it tells stories of youth

As it soars to its highest at noon!

Then slowly does it start ‘ebbing’

By evening it is at its lowest, but radiates peace and calm around

As does the embodied soulIn the ‘autumn’ years of the body it carries !

At dusk the setting Sun gives golden hues

So does the seeker-soul embodied in mind and matter!

Death symbolises the much-needed rest for the ever-travelling soul

As nightfall is Nature’s Way of temporary rest and rejuvenation!

Then does the Sun rise the next day

And time and tide move ahead again

Just as man lives and dies

To be or not to be …..back to this life and death cycle again – I wonder!!

Birth and Sunrise; Death and sunset!

Isn’t it all a wonder!

How the golden sunset opens the altar within

For revelations from ‘the Supreme Self’!

The ‘Sun’ is the ‘Supreme Consciousness’

Dawning on the horizon of the embodied soul

The calm, serenely flowing ‘water’ is the still mind

The ‘ reflection ‘ mirroring the Sun is the ‘Eternal Truth’ downloading ‘From the Source”

TREES! TREES! TREES!

Trees! Trees! Trees!

Plant trees and Trees Everywhere!For Nature and man to co-exist

In peace and harmony on this Earth – The Maker’s Wonder!

Go Green and honour this planet And honour all life on it

She will honour your life manifold Plant trees and let them live!

Trees are Nature’s greatest of gifts to man

They give us ‘praana’ when we breathe in

And thus ‘cleanse our system’

By ‘scented breaths’ from the Maker’s ‘Perfume Factory’!

Trees are Purity Incarnate

They give us oxygen

And absorb what we throw out – CO2

So that we may live in health, peace and plenty!

Trees! Trees! Trees!

They have been there for man always

And have given him shade and shelter; gum and wood

And so also herbs and cure!

If we uproot trees for our selfish ends

We may end all life on this planet in times to come

For then there will be no flora and fauna

Be it bird, be it animal. Or be it the Lotus, or, be it the Neem!

Interdependence is the unwritten and undisputed law of all Existence

Plant them and nurture them as our forefathers did

So that all Posterity may breathe in fresh air

And live and let live – ‘Nature’s Way’!

ANHAD NAAD

Still! Still! Still!

I was ‘all stillness’!

Body, Mind and soul!

As I stood awhile beside the running stream!

An Invisible Power ‘spoke’ to me

And urged me to close my eyes and listen

I did and all the five senses turned inward as I did!

The ‘Altar of the Self” opened !

Then did the sound of the running stream

Lingered to pervade my ‘whole being’

Still my mind and chase away all thoughts

To live me ‘hollow and empty’!

And this very sound that I gave ‘deaf ears’ to many a time

Enriched me in a moment – body, mind and soul!

ANHAD NAAD! ANHAD NAAD!

Is it this – I wondered!

Is this what man hears within

When he ‘merges’ into ‘The Self”

Though may carry his matter-body around?

I wonder! I wonder! I wonder!

If, in just a fraction of a second

The ‘inner senses’ can ‘ relate ‘ to the Anhad

I wonder how one feels when he lives

To experience the ‘ANHAD’ within!

Still! Still! Still!

I was ‘all stillness’!

Body, Mind and soul!

As I stood awhile beside the running stream!

An Invisible Power ‘spoke’ to me

And urged me to close my eyes and listen

I did and all the five senses turned inward as I did!

The ‘Altar of the Self” opened !

Then did the sound of the running stream

Lingered to pervade my ‘whole being’

Still my mind and chase away all thoughts

To live me ‘hollow and empty’!

And this very sound that I gave ‘deaf ears’ to many a time

Enriched me in a moment – body, mind and soul!

ANHAD NAAD! ANHAD NAAD!

Is it this – I wondered!

Is this what man hears within

When he ‘merges’ into ‘The Self”

Though may carry his matter-body around?

I wonder! I wonder! I wonder!

If, in just a fraction of a second

The ‘inner senses’ can ‘ relate ‘ to the Anhad

I wonder how one feels when he lives

To experience the ‘ANHAD’ within!

“ सो हम “…” सो हम”

करते करते “सो हम” “सो हम”

गूंजने लगे जब ॐ के झंकार तन मन और दिल की हर धड़कन में

दिखें हमें झलक प्रभु के तब इस जग के हर रंग और रूप में

तुझमें मुझमें उनमे और प्रत्येक व्यक्ति में

करते करते “ सो हम” “ सो हम”

गुजरने लगे जब हर पल प्रभु के रहम की अनुभूति में

खिल उठे मन की आँगन में

उनकी महर की चमन

करते करते “ सो हम सो हम”

ओझल हुए जब चित्ताकाश से तनाव और धुंधलापन के बादल

बरसने लगे तब हम पर ‘रिम झिम’ ‘रिम झिम’ प्रेम और हर्ष के बूँदें

और धो डाले ये सारे मैल तन मन और पंजेंड्रिय की ओदनि से

करते करते सो हम सो हम

महकने लगे जब घर आँगन

चन्दन और तुलसी की सुगंध से

गिर पडे तब ‘टप टप’ अक्षों से निरंतर गुरु की आभार के अश्रु

फिर क्यों ना मनाये हम जशन

जीवन में हर पल हर दिन का

जब वे सिखाये हमें जीवन जीने की कला

हर सांस की लय के साथ