Positive outlook, Positive attitude, Positive approach are all trendy words , nowadays, but is it really bringing about the desired outcome in people?
I think it depends on the individual as to how he benefits from a positive thinking seminar or program, for, no matter what convincing techniques you bring to man, unless he wants to benefit from it and makes an attempt himself , believing in it from the heart, he will gain nothing. So many of us don’t change – we just remain the way we are……incorrigible!
Similarly, positivity, as manifested by people, need not be what it appears to be – it can be just a facade, a sham!
Let me go into more detail about this.
It’s true that all of us, go into a ‘negative’ mode sometime. But those of us who become aware of it just become a witness to it and go into introspection , which, will help us to survive it and come back again to our natural Self. Such waves of negativity just come and lash against the shore of positivity and recede….no ‘psunamis’ and no damage to anyone.
But there are some of us, who , almost all the time ( can’t say always) think, speak and behave in a negative manner – your would say that negativity is a relative term, as positivity is. I would second your opinion, for, negativity is only that which causes harm to others and so to ourselves and brings negative vibrations of dislike, disharmony etc. in the environment. And, positivity is that which brings harmony within ourselves, first, to bring harmony without, in the long run!
Earlier I used to get angry and frustrated with such people who always thought, spoke and behaved in a negative manner , though, many a time, their manifested behavior is just a veneer put up to make a good impression on people who are important to them.But, I no longer react to such people, for, I have realized that negativity is not their true nature.
There was a time when I was totally fed up with some of my kith and kin and some so-called friends who are incorrigible and it appears that they will never change for the better as long as they live and will continue to think, talk and behave negatively. I can understand why they do so – they are blind –i.e. blind in a different way. They are blind to their own shortcomings , or, may not be really blind to them, but,just turn a blind eye towards them. This must be because they must be feeling deeply insecure due to a poor, low self-image and must be wanting to cover it up with make-do goodness and peity ….poor souls! Nowdays, I feel only compassion for them, and always pray for their deliverance from these shackles of arrogance and an apparent superiority-complex , which is actually due to an imbalance in their mental build-up. Poor fellows! They are cowards, actually, for, they don’t have the courage to introspect and see the loopholes’ within’ to do something about them, and hence , are always uncomfortable wtih themselves. The only comfort they find is in thinking, speaking and behaving in a negative way with people who are exactly opposite to them in thought , word and deed – those people, who don’t have a self-image to compromise with, and hence, live peacefully with themselves, and hence, with others around.
The negativity-prone people slander their’ rivals’ for, probably, they are jealous of them. Heart of hearts, they also admire them, I feel, may be, even more than the others, but, instead of feeling happy and proud abut them, they want to spoil their image among kith and kin if it’s a relative, or, in the social circles , if a friend. Such behavior of theirs doesn’t kindle any reaction whatsoever in those who are always centred in themselves and hence always positive from within and not pretending to be so. The negative people talk and talk and talk to whoever they can and they seem to find a bitter or an evil satisfaction in this. But does it affect their targets? Not at all!
Have we not seen some dogs? They keep running , looking at the Sun, and keep barking at it for sometime, then, become quiet – again they repeat the same strange beheavior after a while. Does it make any difference to the Sun? Nay. It’s as resplendent as ever and spreads its light and warmth as is its role in Creation.
O Lord! Pray forgive those people who slander others and bring disharmony in the family and in society
For, they are not the culprits! They are just victims of ego, arrogance and ignorance
Please bless my kith and kin, and, some others, who profess themselves to be my friends – for, they are sick
Yes! So sick in mind ( physical sickness is a lesser evil!) for they spread negativity around them all the time
They dishonour Nature’s Design – YOUR design
By not living in peace and harmony with their kith and kin
But in so many ‘pieces’ and in so much disharmony within themselves
That they spread it all around among other kith and kin
And those who don’t have a strong ‘immune’ system within or who are similar to them in their way of life
Get infected! They encourage each other, vouchsafe for their love for each other and say united in disharmony, in fall from divinity
Albeit they feign piety, purity and goodwill by meaningless rites and rituals
These rites and rituals are not meaningless in themselves but they lose their power because of the negative vibrations of these people performing them
Pray bless them with the Light of your Wisdom
To make them realize that no one is perfect
And in fact those who point their fingers at others are the farthest away from God and Divinity
Please repeat to them the golden words of wisdom that you spoke for me once
“If you can’t find the Divine in those close to you
If you can’t find the Divine within yourself
You will aways be in a ‘maze’ and take umpteen lifetimes
During which your arrogance, your ego, will be burnt to ashes
And your self-image will be demolished to nothing
From these ashes will the real YOU rise
Humble, positive, grateful, compassionate, loving and lovable
To live a lifetime of true piety and purity of heart
To live in peace and harmony with and without
To be a blessing for this world, and a messenger of peace , love and bliss – “ a good samaritan”!